Cure For a Broken Heart
Is all that suffering really necessary? Can't you choose to be happy while you are pursuing your goals?
It is a choice
The reality is that we could just as easily feel happy, in spite of losing someone very dear to us.
It doesn't require additional energy to maintain a happy disposition, just different beliefs.
Do you really have to suffer as a way of showing that you care about someone?
What would happen if you focused on what went right?
For example, while you were with this individual, did you feel grateful for having them in your life, while they were there? Can you remember times when you laughed together, celebrated events together, teased each other? Those are assets that you can draw on whenever you want. Honestly, you have two options: Think about the moments you enjoyed together or dwell on what isn't there anymore.
Replaying the loss of your ex continuously in your mind won't make that person come back.
Understand that you were just trying to take care of yourself in the best way you knew how, your depth of understanding increases and your sense of peace will free you from the unhappiness that you would traditionally feel in this situation.
The first time I read about the Option Process I was astonished at how simple, yet effective it was. Just like the Geico commercials, "So easy, a caveman can do it."
There are two components to this process:
Being non-judgmental and having an attitude of acceptance
Asking the questions
Here are the questions:
- What are you unhappy about?
- How do you feel about that?
- Why does that make you unhappy?
- Is there something you're afraid might happen if you didn't believe [that]?
- If you can't think of a reason for why you're unhappy, do you want to continue feeling that way?
- What are you wanting now?
You may be wondering at this point, "Well, which questions do I ask and when?"
The questions flow naturally, as long as you come from the right attitude. (continued on next page...)