The Attraction Factor
Not everyone is "blessed" with beauty right out of the womb. In fact, the majority of people would be considered average-looking at best. And when you factor in personal perceptions of what attractiveness actually is, it's even more challenging to factor that in as an asset, considering how certain non-physical characteristics influence that perception.
Having the ability to attract seems to involve an integration of mind and body into one that's congruent and consistent. It supercedes physical appearance in the long haul. Physical beauty grabs us immediately; having an attraction persona draws people in like a tractor beam latching on to a space ship. The pull is irresistible.
Since men tend to focus more on the physical, while women generally tend to be influenced more by someone's character, this article is directed at men who want to develop a greater ability to attract without having to resort to cosmetic surgery.
Fortunately, there are certain characteristics that seem to be universal when it comes to attracting another person.
We all appreciate the confident (and even cocky but not arrogant) individual. When a confident person walks into a room, they tend to receive respect, whether that person is competent or not. A confident person has a steady gaze; it's unlikely that he will be shifting his eyes around. His lack of self-consciousness is apparent and it tends to raise the attraction factor. Have you ever tried, just for one day, walking around "as if" you were the most confident person in the world? You'll actually feel different. Keep it up for a few weeks and it's now a habit you can take everywhere with you.
Humor makes a person appear more attractive. It seems to have something to do with the fact that a humorous person reduces tension in those around him, which improves our overall mood. We all like to be entertained and the enjoyment is often so great that we often don't take into consideration what that person looks like physically, at least not right away.
I once took a class at a local college where the instructor was missing one arm (he had a prothesis that could clutch things) and from the way he walked, he also appeared to have an artificial leg. And this instructor also seemed angry in general. Inwardly I groaned, thinking that this person couldn't possibly teach a class.
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